I like them both, but what you say about Armored Brigade is true. Seems like the basic fundamentals of the game might get in the way of your enjoyment.
My biggest gripe is reading elevation on the maps. The last update improved the shadows, so that helps. The iso and height maps help a lot but reading elevation at a glance is challenging.
I'm not much of a real time player myself, but i can manage Armored Brigade just fine. You can set the game to play in rounds of 30, 60, 90, 180, 360 seconds, so thats kind of a wego mechanic. You can give orders during the rounds but can't pause. There is also an orders delay, so keeping your HQ in range is important. I usually give orders to platoons and sections, and avoid giving orders to single units whenever possible. One feature i use a lot is delayed waypoints, you set waypoints to activate later but pay the command delay upfront.
I have the whole Armored Brigade package and there is just a crap load of content. Single scenarios, campaigns, generated scenarios/campaigns. A lot of options for setting up battles.
I don't know if your a Steam customer, but you could buy it on Steam, play for up 2 hours[make sure its under] and refund if its not your thing.
The game doesn't feel like one of those clickfest RTS games to me, i really enjoy it.
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*I'm in the Wargamer middle ground*
I don't buy all the wargames I want, I just buy more than I need.