Not harsh at all, glad we can help. TOAWIV is a complex and sometimes frustrating experience. I also had my fill when I was first trying to get back into TOAW (long time ACOW player, but I missed TOAWIII). But now, after many hours of hair pulling and teeth grinding, I am finding it to be very enjoyable.
I'm not familiar w/ that scene you mentioned, but there are tons and tons of scenes ... and the best part of it all, you have the Scenario Editor to play with, too: if you don't like the way your scene is playing, by all means, have a go at improving it or even remaking it to your liking.
Anyway, glad to know you will give it another chance! Check out all the recent AARs, you might find a scene that you will like even better!
Ok, well, have a great day!