See some of you seem to have a logic problem.
Glenn seems to understand the question, but can't seem to understand the nature of choices. He IS alone, if I read correctly, loves his hobbies, but doesn't appear to like being alone. Sooo the question Glenn, is, if you walked into a cafe, met Mrs perfect, and she asked you, would you pick her, or would you stay with the hobbies, what would you pick? If you pick hobbies, then, you are not as lonely as you tell yourself. If you pick her, then you dislike your loneliness more than you dislike getting rid of the hobbies.
I am just curious where people actually feel about the nature of the choice.
Josh seems to prefer the companion over the hobby. Warspite seems to prefer the hobby over the companion.
It's not a crime to prefer your hobby. I have two friends, they are both hard working men (which makes them nice sounding as mates), but they have no interest in putting the mate before their hobbies (which just means they are likely to remain single). They are great guys, and are there for their friends when they are needed (they are the type that actually show up if you are moving, to help with the lifting).
Zak sounds like a decided choice, but Orm has never been put on the spot, so he is not really sure (which is ok).
I hear guys routinely lament about spouses complaining about their game playing. I would not be one of them. If your man isn't at home in front of his computer playing some game, then, is he out with another woman? Smart women like to know where their man is :)
Everyone has needs. I have an awesome collection, but, my real need is to hear good morning dear, and good night dear. I need to have someone to please, and it would be nice if I had someone to please me. My main place of amusement is my kitchen actually. But the dishes do get done, and then what? I like ceramics, but, if you do it long enough, you end up buried under a sea of the stuff. My mother had that trouble :) I am feeling a bit buried under some of my hobbies now actually. But, you can always make an apple crisp eh. It doesn't stick around. I like doing housework enough. It keeps me occupied.
My perfect day involves good morning dear, make you smile, make you breakfast, see you off to work, occupy my day, keep the place in order, go shopping (for amusement if I don't need anything currently), make dinner, greet you from work, maybe spend time at a movie (but that might only be good once a month eh, movies have to be worth going to), maybe go out to dinner, which is usually too expensive, but it gives you a reason to own nice clothes, generally, if you come home from work, and want to play on your computer, no problem for me, you work all day, you deserve your play time (I just hope sometimes play time means me :) ).
I don't understand demanding people though.
It's not like I am asking you to choose, your daughter or your son. That is a non question. It's not like I am asking you to pick your spouse or your friends, that is another non question. A spouse that makes you pick them over friends, is a dumb spouse. They are just asking to be dumped. The correct choice there, is you pick your friends. I have seen what happens to people that pick the possessive spouse. Their life is miserable.
Some people WANT to be alone. I am not one of those people :)
Just curious who here is happy to be single, and who is not interested in being single.
I'm also looking for a nice guy, in about the area of 50ish years I'd prefer 55+, you'd need to convince me for anything lower than 50. And below 40 is too much like craddle robbing :)
Hey, I don't need to JUST look on dating sites :)
Wargame, 05% of the time.
Play with Barbies 05% of the time.
Play with Legos 10% of the time.
Build models 20% of the time
Shopping 60% of the time.
Exlains why I buy em more than I play em.