From: Montpellier, France
There is no need to talk like that. In my opinion there was nothing wrong with what Mad Igor said
Thank you for your effort to help me and Igor.
But like I said, to me, his words felt offensive. I still think they are. I know I kind of threw grenades to kill a fly (the fly representing only the offense, not the offender). As I am somewhat instructed in some ways of psychology, I was conscious of this while writing and I know why I did and that I indeed needed to talk like that!
I'm sorry if it moved you enough to feel the need to come to defend Igor. I tried to make my statement to be as instructing as I could, knowing I would have very little chance to be understood, if any (I don't imply any lack of intelligence or anything here). I also knew that, if correct, I would cause much hurt and feeling to Igor, whether it helped him or not.
Igor, (I find it too hard to belittle you as Mad, even if you seem to want to be identified as such) it was not about waging war against you. I still don't think I was wrong. You were needlessly aggressive in your statement. And at that very moment of great personal turmoil, for reasons you (and distant worlds) are of course innocent, not to react would have hurt me more than you may think. It was less difficult, and more healthy for me to risk passing as a psycho in this far away forum than just swallow my outsized but solid feeling.
But I must confess I am kind of sorry for the anger I caused you, as my not so innocent “victim”. But what I said, even in a very aggressive manner, I still respectfully believe to be true, especially after reading your answer.
Of the great many that are in moral pain (sadly a big majority of the humanity, as studies show), I am one of the too few people that did try to ease it with the help of psychotherapists. I learned a lot from them. One even tried to convince me I should become one. So, when I say to someone he should consider consulting, it is not an insult. More like a hopeless wish people would consult and successfully heal so they would feel better (and not attack me anymore). At least, the hurt the revelation may cause when I'm right may convince them to stop bugging me without reason.