From: San Antonio, TX
Well, I tendered my resignation to the University today. Been there 12 years. Time to move on...
Change can be a good thing. Got big plans?
We're at a real crossroads. I have a great job offer in hand from a company in NE Pennsylvania. It's a high pressure: high reward sort of position with a great company.
On the other end of the spectrum is a move to San Antonio to be with my wife's family. We're kind of isolated up here in MN from our families. We miss growing up with our parents, siblings and-for the first time-our new nieces and nephews. My wife would be the only one working if we ventured down that path. Doable, but risky financially.
So-a dream job or family? I'm sure no one else has ever made this decision before. I'm the first in the epic history of mankind, I'm sure. It's just a very, very difficult decision.
It's wonderful that we have a choice. But we've never been in that position before. We've moved around because that's where the jobs were. We don't have to do that anymore. And frankly, it's scary.
ETA: I'm all ears if one of you lot has some sage advice...
I quit teaching university after four years with nothing on the horizon. I'd been in NC for 6 years and just needed to move on. Moved to NYC, which was supposed to coincide with the GF at the time (we had lived together for two years) moving up with me. I went first, got a job and apt., all set up. Then she bailed!
Happily though, after working my A** off for a few months, got a great interview and eventually the job in London.
So the jump into the Blue can have good results, but the process can be tough. Sounds like a tough negotiation ahead. A list of pros and cons always helps me. Then flip a coin! What the coin says will tell you what you really think! (and what she really feels, which might be most critical)
It's interesting to me how my decisions with two young children are very different from the decisions I would have made in the past, B.C. (Before Children). It would have been no contest whatsoever and I'd have opted for the PA job offer in a snap.
I'm becoming more conservative and more of a homer than before. It's interesting to watch the change over time.