From: San Antonio, TX
I'm veering off to chase Bullwinkle's thought: I really appreciate the romance angle of Dr. Z, but not how you'd think. The movie is a haunting tribute to how life's twists can separate - or unite - a man with a true love and is very sad. But the movie focuses really on the loss of his paramour rather than his wife and children. The movie does try to do justice to the anquish he feels over the turning away from his wife for Lara, but I don't think it comes close to representing the real repurcussions for him and his wife and his child (but it's just a movie!). Besides, who couldn't look on Lara in the movie and not love her!
My wife and I alternatively laughed at and grimaced at The Bridges of Madison County. It seems that the woman rationalized her affair (cheating on her husband and family) based upon her husband being a bit on the dull side. Really? That's your reason for dumping on your family?
Furthermore, when her children read through her recount of her erotic daliances on the kitchen table (the very one they were reading her journal on at the time), they were struck with fondness for their mother's act. "Aww, isn't that cute", seemed to be their response.
Of course, in real life, upon hearing of what was done on that very table by one's parent, most children would push themselves quietly away from the table in mild reactionary disgust. When reading about what mom did to dad, just because he was a little bit boring, most adult children would feel at least moderately uncomfortable with what mom did, if not outright angry.
Novel romances, affairs and depictions of romantic love are typically nonsense. Those written many years ago are completely unrealistic depictions of the development of adult, mature love. Real love takes patience, time and embracing everything in life-not just the flashy, charismatic and exciting, but also the rote, the day-to-day and the small things in life. Holding a job, raising kids, holding a mortgage, belonging to the PTA-not sexy. But necessary for mature love and raising families. It makes for crap novel reading though.
This touches on a good philosophical question-though: Is there such thing as a 'perfect fit' for anyone, versus the 'many fish in the sea' point of view? I'm of the latter opinion-there are many good possible life mates and spouses. It's up to you to find one that fits and change to best develop your lives together.