From: Beaverton, OR
Well I've only had the game less than a week, but so far I am really enjoying it. I feel like they struck a nice balance, as i said on another topic, between the amount of control given to the play and historical and realistic gameplay, with a just the right touch of randomness.
This is the first time I've been happy with an overall strategy type of game, I mostly play tactical stuff like John Tiller's Battleground series, etc. I tried AGEOD's Napoleon demo and just couldn't get into it.
TBH I don't have an answer to your question about the CSA spending the whole game stalemating the Union. I am still too new with the game, but I just started a pbem and have been playing it quite a bit... I just haven't had it long enough to answer that one. It does seem like there is the chance for good stratgic variation becuase of the amount of control given the player.
The FOW, scouting/raiding/C&C are all done very well imo.
I suppose the real question is if you would like it or not? There are really so many different personal preferences that noone could really say for sure. I am also not really familiar with the games you mentioned so that doesn't help me compare. Ultimately only you can decide.
Again I haven't had the game long and maybe I'll change my mind later, but so far I'm very happy with it.